Posts by Doubtfully Yours

Some parents call the childfree 'selfish', but you tell me if it isn't the most selfish thing to bring somebody into this world just so that they can take care of you in your old age. Now that's some serious selfishness!

Mega dittos on your comments. Rigth now I don't have pets either. Perhaps in the far future I'll get a 'low-maintenance', quiet cat. Maybe.

Thanks for sharing.

DY

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My first concert, after 30 years...

by onacruse in

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yes, it's true.. the last concert i went to was 30 years ago: george benson, and only because he was a "brother.".

last night: john mayall.

kate .

Doubtfully Yours

How cool!!!!!!!!!!!!! Gotta love those concerts!!!!!!!!!!!!

DY

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A call to the childfree/childless....

by Doubtfully Yours in

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any particular reason for such decision?

i have health fears, so long ago i decided against having children.

sometimes i feel afraid of growing old alone and lonely, but lately i've realized that having children is no guarantee of any future situation.

Doubtfully Yours

Mulan,

Life can be fulfilled by other venues other than children. There are plenty of people that have children and other relatives and still feel the sting of loneliness. You see, it's in the person!

I am at a very mature age and thus far childfree life is so very good. As for who'll take care of me in my old age? My currently healthy finances will, I assure you; in the end, here in the U.S., that's what really does, you know. Even when you have children.

Ever heard the saying that goes: "money isn't everything, but it sure keeps the kids in touch". (HA!!!)

We have these wonderful neighbors that are in their old age and have children, of course we can only tell during Thanksgiving or Christmas, and they are soooo neglected! That's the crowd I really feel sad about. As a childfree person I know what's coming and I'll manouver a way to deal with it, but for the neglected people in their old age that had put their efforts while young to bring up a family and then have to face this situation now, is just the saddest thing. And believe me Mulan, in the ego-centric and extremely selfish society we live in that's the future awaiting many many parents.

All above said, I wish you the best of golden years next to your children, grandchildren and great grandchildren.

Thanks for sharing your experience.

DY

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A call to the childfree/childless....

by Doubtfully Yours in

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any particular reason for such decision?

i have health fears, so long ago i decided against having children.

sometimes i feel afraid of growing old alone and lonely, but lately i've realized that having children is no guarantee of any future situation.

Doubtfully Yours

Princess,

I can relate to the mother-in-law comments of "should've had kids". My husband's family used to harrass me about it (because you know, in the Hispanic culture is the 'woman's' job to fill the house with little feet) until one day I told them point blank and loud enough for them all to hear that he'll have plenty of children with his other wife. That drove the point home well enough that I haven't heard a baby remark since.

I now understand that the motherhood calling wasn't loud enough for me, and the older I get the more I agree with my childfree life.

Please understand that I adore my nieces and nephews, but it's just so wonderful to have money to burn on eating out, travel, spur of the moment gadgets, etc. And the peace and quiet! The peace and quiet is so worth it!!!!!!!! I just couldn't imagine trading my actual life style in order to have healthy kids. Nope! Part-time visits will more than satisfy my female instincts.

As for hubby, if due to my exiting the WTBTS the marriage goes sour and he becomes a father down the line, there's no doubt in my mind that he'll more than miss his present lifestyle. I mean, that man is the KING, with all these toys and plenty more at his becking call. Yeap, he'll for sure miss it!

The way you feel about how it's all worth it at the end of the day, it's the same feeling I have about childfreedom. The stress-free life is just sincerely and absolutely priceless.

Thanks for sharing your experience.

DY

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A call to the childfree/childless....

by Doubtfully Yours in

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any particular reason for such decision?

i have health fears, so long ago i decided against having children.

sometimes i feel afraid of growing old alone and lonely, but lately i've realized that having children is no guarantee of any future situation.

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Copsec,

Wise woman for not having kids with crummy guys! I'm sure your stepdaughter will fullfil your maternal inclinations. Best of luck to you.

Thanks for your comments.

DY

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How Long did it take you to re-build?

by Scooby in

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just wondering how long it took/ is taking many of you to rebuild your lives and say goodbye to phobias, etc.?.

for those who grew up in the borg and don't have a point of reference to go back to....what have you done to create a new life free from that anguish to your mind?

did a new religion help or therapy?

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I'm preparing my turf in anticipation of my leave, fairly soon. I have a pretty good network of friends thus far. However, the fall out with my parents and perhaps the demise of my marriage will leave pretty big devastation that only time will heal.

DY

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Blacks can't speak English - Bill Cosby

by closer2fine in

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sorry if this was already posted, i did a search & didn't see it.. .

http://www.worldnetdaily.com/news/article.asp?article_id=38565.

minority report.

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Scotsman,

Uneducated whites speak quite funny too, but since we were on the topic of an African-American person making 'x' comment, I just gave my honest opinion.

I'm not a racist, I just can handle the truth. Can you?

DY

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FDS Sends Convention Delegates Packin'

by ezekiel3 in

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jehovah's witness across north america are being sternly counseled at this week's service meeting that they should pack lunches during the 2004 dictrict convention instead of leaving the site to eat elsewere or return with food.

in a letter read during the announcements, members are told this is a "serious problem".

reportedly jws have been banned from some convention locations because the venues want concession stand business if jws insist on bringing carry-out meals into the facility.

Doubtfully Yours

Oh, oh, and another thing!!!!!!!!!!..... I'll make sure to leave during the intermission song and come back when the afternoon program has already started!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yeah, that's right!!!!!!!!!!!

DY

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FDS Sends Convention Delegates Packin'

by ezekiel3 in

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jehovah's witness across north america are being sternly counseled at this week's service meeting that they should pack lunches during the 2004 dictrict convention instead of leaving the site to eat elsewere or return with food.

in a letter read during the announcements, members are told this is a "serious problem".

reportedly jws have been banned from some convention locations because the venues want concession stand business if jws insist on bringing carry-out meals into the facility.

Doubtfully Yours

You know what?! Just for that fact, I'll make it a point to go out for breakfast and lunch outside of the facility the whole 3 days!!!

Bunch of controlling idiots they are!!!!!!!!!!!!!

DY